Kamasutra In Islam [30. Ar Ruum: 21] And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives

[30. Ar Ruum: 21]

And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives of your own kind, so you tend to be and feel reassured him, and pledged his love and affection among you. Verily in this is truly there are signs for people who think.

All puja and blessing for GOD is just a Glorified and Exalted. There is no god but GOD. There is no GOD allies for the ruler of heaven and earth. Greeting and invocation to the Prophet Muhammad continues to shed sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam and his wives and his descendants.

Amma ba'du. This article is for most humans may be considered taboo

or not useful at all. It was only natural for this kind of discussion very rarely delivered by Kyai and Ustadz. But we have to realize again that Islamic Shari'a is the source of the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam after being given instructions by GOD subhanahu wa ta'ala. So, as long as we follow what is conveyed by the Prophet and his wife and his best friend, it means we have to follow the sunnah Apostles. If they act properly, we certainly also true.



And we on this occasion to try to explain again what is justified by GOD and His messenger, in the conjugal relationship, especially manners intercourse or intercourse or sex or in modern times people call it "Kamasutra".

Kamasutra we submit this may be very contradictory and very contrary to what many are written in books such as Mujarrobat, horoscope and more. The books are then believed by the public as truth. Indeed they have established a case of religion without science tradition, but in a sense instinct alone.

REASONS FOR MARRIED

From Abu Hurairah, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he said: "She was married for four things: [1] because of their possessions, [2] because of its descendants, [3] because of her beauty and [4] because of his religion. Then choose a woman who is religious, then you'll get lucky. "

[Bukhari, Muslim, Nisaa'i, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Ahmad and Ad-Darami]

SHE IS A GENTLE CREATURES

From Abu Hurairah, he said: Messenger of Allah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, the woman like a rib. If you try to straighten it, then you will break it. But if you leave it, then you will enjoy it by staying in a state bent. "

[Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Ahmad and Ad-Darami]







As we know from the two above hadith, that she was married by four reasons. And the best reason for marriage is because of his religion. It meant that women who understand the religion of course she will always please her husband. He knew about the obligation preen only to her husband, she also knew she had to follow the "fantasy" husband, especially in this sex, and he knew that he also has the same right to be treated with loving care.

And second, we know that women are gentle creatures and can not be treated harshly, including this sex problem. So let not the husband just because of his sexual fantasy to follow later he was being a bit rude or forcing his wife to obey her husband desires. But should the husband tells his wife that Islam justifies the "fantasy sex" was.

GOD knows what passion there is in the hearts of His servants. And the fantasy sex is a gift given to the husband and wife HER already tied up with the halal. GOD subhanahu wa ta'ala creates a desire to husband and wife to love one another, to love and be loved, loved and cherished. That's the nature of God that we should not forget. Is GOD in HIS religion of Islam, DIA has established procedures for interaction between husband and wife who later taught to the Apostles HIS HIS to be submitted to the people of HIS.

And we try to mention some mailing lists that Kamasutra and submit it to the people who are willing to accept the truth of the Apostle sunnah. We do not follow the behavior of those who disbelieve, because what is lawful by GOD subhanahu wa ta'ala, it is also permissible for us. So we should be grateful for it as a gift of GOD.

Kamasutra IN ISLAM

    * A wife should not refuse her husband for intercourse, and vice versa
    * Intercourse may be done in the daytime, but must not be in the daytime fasting month (Ramadan) because it will be subject to expiation (fine / ransom).
    * Husband-wife read the prayer before intercourse
    * The freedom of intercourse:

          o intercourse is allowed from front or from behind like an animal being married, provided that they do not put the penis into the anus.
          o intercourse may see the private parts (genitals) husband or wife
          o be naked
          o may resort to "force" anything during the intercourse

    * Husbands may release the semen (sperm) outside the vagina of his wife (with intent to avoid pregnancy)
    * If you want to repeat intercourse, it must perform ablutions again
    * If you want to sleep after intercourse, it must perform ablutions beforehand
    * Allow junub bath with husband-wife
    * Do not tell me about what is done when the husband and wife in intercourse with others, including the in-laws.

IN NO intercourse

    * Unlawful intercourse with a wife who is menstruating (menstrual)
    * Unlawful intercourse with the wife who had just finished giving birth (parturition)
    * Unlawful intercourse in the anus (rectum)







NO WIFE
HUSBAND refuse

1. WIFE HUSBAND CAN NOT refuse

From Abu Hurairah, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a wife to leave or stay away from her husband's bed, the angels curse him till morning."

[Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, Ahmad and Ad-Darami]

From Abu Hurairah, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "By GOD that my soul in His hands, when a man calls his wife to bed to bed, but the wife was reluctant to (refuse), then the population of heaven [angels] angry with her until her husband forgave her. "

[Muslim]

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Those are some hadiths that mention of the prohibition of the wife to refuse her husband. And of course we must know also that a husband must also understand the desire wife. Because the passions lust that existed at the women tend to be larger, but they were able memendamnya. So that really wise if the husband has also learned to understand it.


2. Intercourse WELCOMED IN DAY AFTERNOON

From Abu Hurairah, he said:

A man came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and said: "Woe to me, O Messenger of Allah."

He asked: "What makes you hurt?"

The man replied: "I had intercourse with my wife during the daytime of Ramadan."

He asked: "Do you have something to free a slave?" He replied: Did not have.

He asked: "Are you able to fast for two consecutive months? He replied: Not able.

He asked again: "Do you have something to feed the 60 (sixty) poor?"

He replied: "No." Then he sat down to wait for a while. Then the Prophet gave him a basket of dates, and said: "This Sedekahkanlah."

The man had asked: "Which means I have to menyedekahkannya (dates) to the poorest people among us, while in this area there are no families that most need it than us."

Then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam also laughed until one of visible teeth. Then he said: "Go home and give your family eat."

[Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Ahmad, Malik and Ad-Darami]

This is one tradition that calls on the people of the Prophet that intercourse during the daytime. And the scholars argue that this tradition contains about permissibility husband and wife having sex during daylight hours. If the act is forbidden, of course, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam would impose sanctions (punishment) or issue a ban.

The reason that people are fined because he intercourse on the day of Ramadan fasting. So he and his wife are not only void the fast and making up those obliged to (paying) fast, but they have to pay another penalty as mentioned in the hadith.


PRAYER BEFORE PLAYING

3. PRAYER BEFORE intercourse

From Ibn Abbas, he said: Messenger of Allah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: If one of them will menggauli his wife, let him read:

"Bismillah. O GOD, we put away the devil, and put away evil from what YOU bestowed to us. "


Because if the destined relationship between two of them are led to the child, then Satan will not harm the child forever.

[Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Ahmad and Ad-Darami]


4. DIRECTIONS FROM intercourse WELCOMED BACK

From Jabir, he said: The Jews used to say that if a man his wife in qubulnya menggauli (vagina) from behind, then the child is born will squint his eyes. Then came the verse:

[2. Al Baqarah: 223]. Wife-wives, is (like) the land where you grow crops, then Go to the land where the farm-tanammu it how ye will. And work (good deeds) for your souls, and fear Allah and know that you will meet Him someday. And give glad tidings to the believers of people.

[Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood and Ad-Darami]

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This Hadith is a theorem that allows a husband to his wife fuck from behind as animal mating, but that kosher is come from a place that had been established that the vagina (Faraj). Now if you put his dick (penis) into the anus (rectum), it is haraam.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Do not you attacking the woman through his butt" or the Prophet also said: In the anus.

[Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Ahmad]

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From Abu Hurairah, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Cursed is the man who came to the woman through the anus (anus)."

[Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud, Nisaa'i, Ibn Majah and Ahmad]

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Of course the logic and reason we know that the anus is a dirty hole because it is a channel where the shit out of him percernaan. Similarly Islam is full of holiness and love of cleanliness, of course, our religion prohibits hard fuck wife in her anus (rectum).


5. BER-FREE Fantasy

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "And, one of intercourse inside of you no reward'. They asked, "O Messenger of Allah, is there one among us to satisfy lust and he got rewarded for that?" He said: "What do you think if she set it to something forbidden, whether he gets a sin?" They replied, "Yes", He said, "so too if he just put it on a kosher thing, then he gets a reward."

[Muslim]

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Hadith on the proposition to be one that gives full freedom to the husband-wife berfantasy against any desire for them both when intercourse. During their act together no one knows or a peek, then the husband and wife are given the freedom anything as Al-Baqarah: 223's. Included here if they want to see each other naked or their genitals.







6. ARE DEAD IN intercourse martyr

Even as the virtue of this intercourse, until the action was included in the group when he found himself a martyr to die in a state junub after mengumpuli wife. Vice versa.


From Jabir ibn Atik of the Prophet peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him say:

"There were seven other martyrs who died fighting sabilillah fi (in the way of Allah) are: [1] The man who was stabbed to death is martyrdom, [2] drowning is a martyr, [3] together with his wife to death is martyrdom, [4] abdominal pain is to die a martyr, [5] had burned to death is martyrdom, [6] is a martyr's death hit by debris and [7] women who die giving birth is a martyr ".

[Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Nisaa'i, and Justice in the book with comments Mustadraknya sanadnya saheeh hadith. This opinion was approved by the ADH-Dhahabi]

7. Maniy outside the vagina

From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri, he said: We fought alongside the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam against Bani Musthaliq ago we managed to capture some Arab women are beautiful. We had not been in touch with the wife, then we would love to redeem them so we can marry them and do mut'ah 'azal [remove sperm outside the vagina to prevent pregnancy]. We say: We do so while the Prophet was in the midst of us without us asking about it. Then we asked also to him and he said: "It's okay even if you do not do ('azal it) because there is not a soul that has been set for GOD created until the Day of Judgement unless bound to happen."

[Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Nisaa'i, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Ahmad, Malik and Ad-Darami]

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This is a tradition that in mansukh (deleted / in-delete), because marriage mut'ah only allowed during the three days since the revelation that time is yet to come. But after three days it was forbidden marriage mut'ah forever by GOD.

From Jabir, he said: "We still do 'azal when the Qur'an was still falling." Ishaq added; Sufyan said: "If there's something definitely forbidden the Qur'an has forbidden it."

[Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Ahmad]

 From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri, he said: The problem of 'azal never talked about near the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam. Then he asked: "Is it 'azal?" Replied the Companions: "[' azal is] A man has intercourse with his wife who was breastfeeding her child, but she did not want his wife was pregnant. Or a man who has intercourse with sahayanya servant, but he did not wish would not have become pregnant because of it. "

Replied the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam: "There's no point do you guys like it. Because the pregnancy was included Qadr. "

Words of Ibn 'Aun, "then I cry to Hasan, Hasan then said: By GOD, so it is actually a warning from GOD.

[Muslim]

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From Jabir, he said: "We never do 'azal the time of the Prophet and our deeds the news reached the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam. But he did not forbid us to do it. "

[Muslim]

From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri, he said: Messenger of Allah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam asked people about' azal, he replied: "Not all of the semen (sperm) directly into the child. But when GOD wants to make something, none of which can be prevented. "

[Muslim]

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Of Saad bin Abi Waqqash, he said: A man came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, then he asked: "I do' azal to my wife (who was at the time of feeding the baby). How is it legal, ya Rasulullah? "He replied:" What made you do it? "The man replied:" I am sorry for his children (fear if he becomes disabled). " Messenger of Allah said: "If it causes children with disabilities, it is definitely going to cacatlah the people of Persia and Rome." [Muslim]

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And many other hadith about the 'good azal of Bukhari and Muslim, not to mention the Book of Sunan and Musnad. So that the scholars were agreed that the issue semen outside the vagina is allowed.

All the hadith about 'This was then made hujjah azal (source of law) by some scholars in determining the laws of masturbation and masturbation.

And opinion in the Shafi'i school is divided into two kinds:

1. According to Imam Shafi'i: mendzalimi haraam for yourself and include adultery hand.

2. According to some "supporters of Shafi'i ulama salaf" (Shafi'i Salaf): Makruh law (moral turpitude but did not sin), because 'azal in this story of the Companions of course the same as masturbation, because the semen is itself impossible except with the aid of hand. And 'azal or masturbation is equally seminal issue, whether it is outside the vagina after intercourse or not because of promiscuity. And there is a history that tells about 'azal taken by one because the wife is menstruating.

8. LEGAL masturbation and masturbation



Case 'azal is also one argument used by scholars to support the Indonesian Government program that is KB (Family Planning), though technically different. 'Azal intended to avoid pregnancy, similarly with contraception.

The use of contraceptive pills and devices intended to kill sperm, but the scholars agree that as long as the seed was not yet 120 days old, it is not sinful because it is still in the form of blood.

Meanwhile, if more than 120 days, then killing a fetus considered a baby and a big sin.


9. IF WANT TO MAIN wudoo AGAIN

From Abu Sa'eed al Khudri, he said the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said: If you want to repeat senggamanya intercourse then again, it must perform ablutions beforehand.

[Muslim]

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This Hadith does not write clearly who ordered ablution. But the scholars argued that the repeated ablution is both of them, namely husbands and wives who want to relive their intercourse. This is adjusted with other hadiths mention that intercourse is an act both cases, the obligation arising from the act should also be borne by the husband-wife's.

Similarly, if a husband-wife wants to sleep after their intercourse, they both also perform ablutions required before they are allowed to sleep or shower immediately jinabat. [Because it basically had to perform ablutions shower jinabat also].


BEDTIME Ablution

From Aisha, she said: When the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam going to bed, when he was junub, the first such ruling in his prayer ablutions, after that he was sleeping.

[Bukhari, Muslim, Nasai, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Ahmad & Ad Darami]

Wudoo IF WANT TO SLEEP

 From Ibn 'Umar, he said: (father)' Umar ibn al-Khattab asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam: Yes, Messenger of Allah, may we sleep in a state junub? Replied the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam: "It's okay, but must perform ablutions beforehand."

[Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Nasai, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah, Ahmad, Malik & Ad Darami]

From Aisha, she said: When the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam was in a state junub, when he wanted to eat or sleep, the first such ruling in his prayer ablutions.

[Muslim]

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From Abdullah ibn Abi Qais said: I asked Aisha about the prayer Witir Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam, then she (Aisha) replied by mentioning the Hadith about Witir. Then I ask also: What did the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam in a state jinabah (junub), whether he has a bath before bed? Or did he sleep first and then take a bath? Aisha replied: Both had done the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam. Sometimes he bathe first, and after that he was sleeping. Sometimes he made ablution first, then he slept. I said (Abdullah): Praise be to GOD who made all things into the field.

[Muslim]

 10. BATH TOGETHER

From Umm Salamah, she said: When I was lying with the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam in a blanket, suddenly I'm menstruating, so I came out slowly and took special clothing menstrual period. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said to me: Are you menstruating? I replied: Yes. He sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam called me and I lay back down with him in a blanket. Zainab bint Umm Salamah said: She (Umm Salama) and the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam jinabat bath together in a single vessel.

[Bukhari, Muslim, Nasai, Ibn Majah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Ad Darami]

HUSBAND-WIFE SHOULD BATH TOGETHER

 From Ubaid bin Umair, he said: Aisha said that Abdullah bin 'Amr ordered the women to resolve their hair when bathing. Aisha said: 'Amr Ibn How strange, he asked women to describe his hair as a shower, why not just told to shave his hair? Actually I never showered with the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam from one place and I did not flush my head more than three spray.

[Bukhari, Muslim, Nasai, Ibn Majah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Ad Darami]

From Aisha, he said: I take a bath together with the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam from one vessel, so that our hand turns into the laver. Whereas when we were both showered junub.

[Muslim]

From Aisha, he said: I take a bath and the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam (also took bath) of water a vessel called the Al Faraq vessel (volume 15 liters).

[Bukhari]

From Ibn Abbas, he said: Maimunah (wife of the Prophet SAW) preached to me that he showered (together) along with the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam from one vessel.

[Bukhari, Muslim. Tirmidhi, Nasai, Ibn Majah & Ahmad]

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About this case we presented in another file specifically discuss the "shower together" so that we need not explain at length.

11. DO NOT tell anyone

From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri, he said the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "That bad, bad man's place in the side of GOD will be at the Day of Judgement is where my husband of mutual confidence-trust with his wife, but then the husband opened his own personal secret wife .

[Muslim]

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This is the hadith that forbids us to hard or even forbidden to the husband or wife to tell her anything that they both do when having sex with others. Above Hadith says about wife personal secrets, secret means including his wife's body parts or anything related to the secret that should only be husband and wife who knows.

And people who should not be told this is all about, whether it's parents or in-laws though,


And Allaah knows best
only GOD is Knower


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Islamic Kama Sutra by Amar Khan

18 Mar, 2009

As we all know that Islam is a complete code of life. Every aspect of life is discussed in Islam. the very famous book “Kamasutra” is actually copied from Islamic texts. The real origin of Kama Sutra is the sahih hadith and sunnah of “holy” prophet. But alas, the Hindus has cheated and copied the jewels of Islamic texts in “kamasutra” and Muslims are far behind the field of modern sexology. But now its time of renaissance, so I have tried to put forward some jewel of hadith and sunnah regarding sexology so that Muslim “ummah” may prosper.

French kissing

Foreplay is very important before sex so in Islam it is very necessary. Especially, French kiss is almost obligatory. Here is the hadith regarding French kisses:
Sunaan Abu Dawud, 13:2380:

Narrated by Ayesha: The Prophet (PBUH) used to kiss her and suck her tongue when he was fasting.

Note: Ayesha was about 9 years at the time of her marriage.

Breast pressing and suckling
The second step for foreplay is breast pressing and suckling.
Malik's Muwatta: Book 30, Number 30.2.14:

Yahya related to me from Malik from Yahya ibn Said that a man said to Abu Musa al-Ashari, "I drank some milk from my wife's breasts and it went into my stomach." Abu Musa said, "I can only but think that she is haram for you." Abdullah ibn Masud said, "Look at what opinion you are giving the man." Abu Musa said, "Then what do you say?" Abdullah ibn Masud said, "There is only kinship by suckling in the first two years." Abu Musa said, "Do not ask me about anything while this learned man is among you."

Coitus interrupts
Islam has given us best way to prevent children so that slave girls don’t loss their price. The other advantage of coitus interruptus is that time is saved so that you may use the next slave girl.
 Sahih Muslim Book 8 Number 3373:

Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah be pleased with him) reported: We took women captives, and we wanted to do 'azl (coitus interruptus) with them. We then asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, and he said to us: Verily you do it, verily you do it, verily you do it, but the soul which has to be born until the Day of judgment must be born. (emphasis added)

Sahih Muslim Book 8 Number 3376:

Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) was asked about 'azl, (coitus interruptus) whereupon he said: There is no harm if you do not do that, for it (the birth of the child) is something ordained. Muhammad (one of the narrators) said: (The words) La 'alaykum (there is no harm) implies its Prohibition.

Group sex with wives
Group sex is a very common term in the world of pornography. But it is also a very often used term in Islamic literature. Allah had given our prophet strength of seventy men. Therefore, one of the attribute of our prophet is “superman of sex”. He used to have group sex with his nine wives.
Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 5, Number 270:

Narrated Muhammad bin Al-Muntathir:

on the authority of his father that he had asked 'Aisha about the saying of Ibn 'Umar (i.e. he did not like to be a Muhrim while the smell of scent was still coming from his body). 'Aisha said, "I scented Allah's Apostle and he went round (had sexual intercourse with) all his wives, and in the morning he was Muhrim (after taking a bath)."

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 6:

Narrated Anas:

The Prophet I used to go round (have sexual relations with) all his wives in one night, and he had nine wives.

Group sex with mother and daughter
Group sex was a holly sunnah of prophet. Some sahaba, the prophet's exalted companions, even used to do this practice with mother and daughters at the same time. But Umer did not like that practice and forbade it latter.
Malik's Muwatta, Book 28, Number 28.14.33:

Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab from Ubaydullah ibn Abdullah ibn Utba ibn Masud from his father that Umar ibn al-Khattab was asked about a woman and her daughter who were in the possession of the right hand, and whether one could have intercourse with one of them after the other Umar said, "I dislike both being permitted together." He then forbade that.

Oral sex and thighing
Some westerners think that oral sex and thighing is the modern invention. But again it is mentioned in Islamic literature which is indeed miraculous.
Sunaan Abu Dawud, Book 1, Number 0270:

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:

Umarah ibn Ghurab said that his paternal aunt narrated to him that she asked Aisha: What if one of us menstruates and she and her husband have no bed except one? She replied: I relate to you what the Apostle of Allah (PBUH) had done.

One night he entered (upon me) while I was menstruating. He went to the place of his prayer, that is, to the place of prayer reserved (for this purpose) in his house. He did not return until I felt asleep heavily, and he felt pain from cold. And he said: Come near me. I said: I am menstruating. He said: Uncover your thighs. I, therefore, uncovered both of my thighs. Then he put his cheek and chest on my thighs and I lent upon he until he became warm and slept.

Doggy style
This style is one of modern style. But again it is mentioned in Islamic literature centuries ago therefore it is one of the miracles of Islam.
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3364:

Jabir (b. Abdullah) (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Jews used to say that when one comes to one's wife through the vagina, but being on her back, and she becomes pregnant, the child has a squint. So the verse came down:" Your wives are your tiIth; go then unto your tilth, as you may desire."

Sahih Muslim, Book 008, Number 3365:

This hadith has been reported on the authority of Jabir through another chain of transmitters, but in the hadith transmitted on the authority of Zuhri there is an addition (of these words): "If he likes he may (have intercourse) being on the back or in front of her, but it should be through one opening (vagina)."

Anal sex
There are some Muslims, who consider it haram but they are actually stayed people. Because anal sex is not only allowed in Islam but also it is practiced by many of the Sahaba.
Lets quote verbatim from Jami al Tirmidhi [Bab al Tafseer Vol. 2, p. 382, 'Ayat Hars']:

"Ibn Abbas narrates that Hadhrath Umar went before Rasulullah (s) and "Master I am destroyed!'. Rasulullah (s) asked 'what thing has destroyed you?'. Umar replied last night I had anal sex. Rasulullah (s) did not give a reply to Umar, then Allah (swt) sent down this revelation "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; the words 'kabool wa Dhabar' (the anus is accepted)"

We read in Tafseer Qurtubi Volume 3, page 93, Ayat Hars:

"Fatwas on the permissibility of sodomy with women Saeed bin Maseeb Nafi, ibn Umar, Muhammad bin Kab, Abdul Malik, Imam Malik, a large group amongst the Sahaba and Tabaeen deemed sodomy to be permissible".

Use of stick
Wow!
This is one of the method never mentioned in any porn literature. But it is mentioned in one of the authentic book of sunni Fiqh (jurisprudence):
In Tafseer Durre Manthur Ayat Hars:

"Abu Maleeka was asked whether it was permissible to practise sodomy with women. He replied 'Last night I practised sodomy with my servant, penetration became difficult hence I sought the assistance of a stick".

http://www.islam-watch.org/Amarkhan/Islamic-Kama -Sutra

Sex Is Good For You, The sexual aspect of life has three basic purposes:

Information Taken From: Natural Healing With the Medicine of The Prophet, Translated & Emendation from original Arabic by Muhammad Al-Akili. Edited by the webmaster, because it was androcentric (male centred) in its original form. It takes two to have sex. Some men forget the pleasure is not only theirs.

The sexual aspect of life has three basic purposes:

1. Conservation of the human race, and continuity of its kind until it reaches the total number of human beings intended by Allah’s (SWT) leave to experience life in this world, to fulfill the divine purpose, and to show gratitude to its Creator.

2. Ejection of bodily fluids from the body, otherwise, suppression or retention of congested semen can cause various kinds of serious illnesses.

3. Fulfillment of one’s desire, satisfaction of one's sexual pleasure, and enjoyment of this blessing.

The latter is the only pleasure of such intercourse which is also provided in the heavenly paradise, whereby, therein three is neither ejaculation, natural discharge of bodily fluids, nor reproduction.

Sex is Good for You

Learned physicians find that sexual intercourse yields essential health benefits.

Galen attributes semen to the elements of fire and air, and describes its humors as hot and moist. This is because semen is rich in prostaglandins, which are hormonelike fatty acids found throughout the body and particularly in semen. Prostaglandins are primary nutrients that affect essential body processes, including blood pressure, metabolism, and body temperature among others. Hence, understanding the value of this most unmitigated and purest form of blood an its preciousness requires great consideration in discharging it.

This means to wisely value the reasons behind dispensing of this precious water of life for either conceiving a child, or emitting it through lawful sexual intercourse upon congestion.

In fact, congested semen which are retained for an extended period can cause various illnesses and infirmities, including obsession, habitude, lunacy, and even insanity, and sometimes, engaging in lawful sexual intercourse may aid in the recovery from such illnesses.

On the other hand, congestion and prevalence of semen for an extended period can cause its corruption, and turns it into a harmful toxin that the body cannot easily dispose of. However, sometimes, nature produces a spontaneous and involuntary emission of excess semen, usually during sleep, and without sexual intercourse.

Some learned predecessors have concluded that the human being should pledge:

1. To walk at least a certain minimum distance every day.

2. To feed his stomach at regular intervals, and not to extend fasting from food beyond the religious requirement.

3. Not to abstain from having lawful sexual intercourse, for a water well drains out if its water if its not used regularly.

Imam Muhammad ibn Zakariyya once said:

"Abstaining from sexual intercourse for an extended period weakens one’s nervous system, can cause obstruction of the urethra, and shrinks the penis."

He added when he observed some people who vowed temporary abstention from sexual intercourse, that their sexual energy diminished, they suffered general weakness of their bodies, became doleful, lost their desire, and their digestive system became corrupt.

Hold on....Only Lawful Sex

Other benefits of lawful sexual intercourse include protecting one’s eyes from looking at what is unlawful, preserving one’s chastity, controlling one’s desire and lust against what is unlawful, and providing the same for his or her spouse. This will certainly provide the believing man and woman with innumerable benefits in this world and in the hereafter. Imam Ahmad alluding to abstention from sex, once said:

"I exercise patience when fasting from food and drink, though it is still difficult."

He also reported in his collection of correct prophetic traditions that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) encouraged the believers to get married, saying:

"Get married, and conceive many children for I shall take pride in your number on the day of judgment."

Ibn Abbass (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

"I get married, eat meat, sleep, stand up in night prayers, fast, and break my fast. Whoever disdains from my traditions (Sunnah) is not one of my followers."

He (SAW) also said:

"O young men whoever among you has the means to establish a family, he should get married, for marriage preserves the chastity of one’s eyes and sexual organ, and whoever cannot afford to establish a family, he must fast from desiring sex, for abstention in that
case will protect him from sin."

Ibn Abbass (RA) one said:

"We recognize that marriage is the best solution for two people who are in love."

It is also narrated in the two collections of correct prophetic traditions that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

Allah’s Messenger (SAW) also encouraged people to choose the young and fertile. On this subject, Mu’qal bin Yasar related that a man said to Allah’s Messenger (SAW):

"I found a beautiful woman from a noble family but she cannot bear children, should I marry her? Allah’s Messenger (SAW) replied, "Nay." The man came back and asked a third time and asked the same question, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) turned to his companions and said: "Choose in your wives the fertile and the affectionate, for I shall take pride in your number on the day of judgment."

Hmmm...So how about some Tips?

Imam al-Tirmithi narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:

"It is among the traditions of Allah’s Messengers to marry, to brush their teeth, to anoint themselves with perfume, and to be circumcised."

Prior to engaging in sexual intercourse, it is necessary for the husband to express his affection and love for his wife by touching her, caressing her, kissing her, and sometimes sucking her tongue. Jabir bin ‘Abdullah narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) enjoined upon a man not to engage in sexual intercourse before caressing his wife.

It is also a prophetic tradition to take a complete ritual ablution (ghusl) after engaging in sexual intercourse and before retiring to sleep, and at least, to take a ritual ablution (wudu), should that man desire to reengage in sexual intercourse anew.

Upon climax, the innate heat transfuses throughout the entire body, and by taking a complete ritual ablution, the water refreshes one’s spirit, and ensures cleanliness and ritual purity. It also rejuvenates the body’s innate heat, musters its caloricity, and helps the gametogenous process. Almighty Allah (SWT) says:

"Verily, We have created man from Nutfah drops of mixed semen (discharge of man and woman), in order to try him, so We made him hearer, seer. (Al-Insan 76:2)

SEXUAL TECHNIQUES

Before I start writing anything about sexual techniques, it is necessary to say that no rules and laws exist either in foreplay or in intercourse. The only laws and rules are the ones reached by the lovers by mutual and often unspoken understanding. Whatever is pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is right and proper; and whatever is mutually displeasing is wrong. The only I imitation to this general rule would be any shari'ah rule which goes against the wishes of the husband or the wife.

(A) Foreplay:

Man often forgets that woman also has been created with the same desires as himself. Asbagh bin Nubatah quotes Imam 'Ali that, "Almighty God created sexual desires in ten parts; then He gave nine parts to women and one to men." But then Allah also gave them "equal parts of shyness.'' (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 40) Many times this shyness makes the man ignore the desires of his wife.

Based on this reality, Islam emphasizes on foreplay. Imam 'Ali says, "When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled)." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 40) Sex without foreplay has been equated to cruelty. The Prophet said, "Three people are cruel: . ..a person who has sex with his wife before foreplay.'' (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 40) Another hadith equates sex without foreplay to animal behavior: "When anyone of you has sex with his wife, then he should not go to them like birds; instead he should be slow and delaying." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 82) The Prophet said, "No one among you should have sex with his wife like animals; rather there should be a messenger between them." When asked about the messenger, he said, "It means kissing and talking." (Tahzibu'l-Ihya, vol. 3, p. 110) Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq has been quoted as follows, "...there should be mutual foreplay between them because it is better for sex." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 82) The Prophet said, "...every play of a believer is void except in three cases: horse-riding, archery and mutual foreplay with his wife these are haqq." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 83)

As for the role of a woman in sexual foreplay, the Imams have praised a wife who discards shyness when she is with her husband. A hadith was quoted earlier from Imam 'Ali which said that women have been given nine-tenths of the sexual desire but Allah has also given them nine-tenths of shyness. (See p. 32) I had promised in Chapter Two to explain the rationale behind this hadith. There might seem to be a contradiction in this act of God, but it is not so. Both the sexual desire and the shyness have been placed for very specific purpose. The sexual desire is to be unleashed, yes unleashed, when a woman is with her husband, but it must be shielded with shyness when she is with other people. This has been very eloquently explained by Imam Muhammad al-Baqir when he said, "The best woman among you is the one who discards the armor of shyness when she undresses for her husband, and puts on the armor of shyness when she dresses up again." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 14-15) After all, modesty and chastity in public is the hallmark of a Muslim lady.

These sayings clearly show that the husband and the wife should feel completely free when they are engaged in mutual stimulation which is known as foreplay. There is nothing wrong, according to Islam, for a woman to be active and responsive during sex. This is diametrically opposed to the sexual morality of the Christian Western world before the sexual revolution. Russell says, "Western women of a generation or two ago can recall being warned by their mothers that sexual intercourse was an unpleasant duty which they owed to their husbands, and that they were 'to lie still and think of England'. (As quoted in Sex and Destiny, p. 94) What else but a sexual revolt could such a morality breed?

As for the Islamic shari'ah, all the mujtahids are unanimous in saying that the act of sexual foreplay in itself is mustahab (recommended). Likewise, it is recommended not to rush into sexual intercourse. (Al-'Urwah, p. 625) The operative word is mutual pleasure and satisfaction.

(B) Techniques of Foreplay:

As far as the methods of mutual stimulation in foreplay are concerned, the shari'ah allows the husband and the wife to see, kiss, touch, smell and stimulate any part of each other's body. Therefore, oral sex, as it is known in this part of the world is allowed. Imam Musa al-Kazim was once asked, "Can a person kiss his wife's vagina?" The Imam said, "No problem." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 77; for similar views of present mujtahids see al-'Urwah, p. 625) The only restriction is that no foreign object should be used. And this restriction is quite understandable: nothing can really substitute the things Allah has created in our bodies!

The restriction I am placing on the use of foreign objects is based on the following hadith. 'Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he had an old neighbor who owned a young slave-girl. Because of his old age, he could not fully satisfy the young slave-girl during sexual intercourse. She would therefore ask him to place his fingers in her vagina as she liked it. The old man complied with her wishes even though he did not like this idea. So he requested 'Ubaydullah to ask Imam ' Ali ar-Riza (a. s.) about it. When 'Ubaydullah asked the Imam about it, the Imam said, "There is no problem as long as he uses any part of his own body upon her, but he should not use any thing other than his body on her." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 77)

In an earlier discussion, we said that masturbation (i.e., self-stimulation of one's own sexual organ till emission of semen or orgasm) is not allowed. However, in the case of married persons, there is no problem if the wife stimulates her husband's penis till the emission of semen or the husband stimulates his wife's vagina till orgasm. (This issue has also been clearly mentioned by the late Ayatullah al-Khu'i in answer to some questions sent by an 'alim from London) This is allowed because it does not come under "self-stimulation;" it is stimulation by a lawful partner. The Qur'an clearly says that, "The believers are.. . those who protect their sexual organs except from their spouses." (23: 5-6) And stimulation of sexual organs by a lawful partner surely comes under the definition of protecting one's organ s "except from their spouses."

(C) Sexual Intercourse:

Is there any particular position for sexual intercourse which is forbidden in Islam? No! As far as the basic coital positions are concerned, there are no restrictions. I am using the term 'basic coital positions' for the positions known as the man above, face to face, woman above face to face; side position, face to face; rear-entry position in which the husband penetrates the vagina from the rear. Actually, the shari'ah has left it on the husband and the wife to explore and experiment as they wish.

In the early Islamic period, an event took place which clarified this issue for all. The people of Medina, influenced by the Jews, used man-above face to face position during sexual intercourse; whereas the Meccans liked to experiment various positions. After the migration of Muslims to Medina, a Meccan married a Medinan woman and wanted to have sex with her in his own way. The woman refused and said that he can have sex with her only in one position. The case was reported to the Prophet; so Allah revealed the verse saying "Your women are a tilth for you, so go in to your tilth as you like." (2:223) That is, in any position. (At-Tabataba'i, al-Mizan, vol. 3 (English translation) p. 319)

However, it is makruh to adopt a standing position, or to face the qiblah or keep it on the backside during the intercourse. It is advisable to refrain from the acrobatic positions given by some sexologists of the East and the West which might even cause physical harm. Remember, the basic rule is mutual pleasure and flexibility. If one partner does not like a particular position, then the other should yield to his or her feelings.

(D) Anal Intercourse:

The opinions of our mujtahids vary on the permissibility of anal intercourse. Before mentioning the preferred and correct view, I would like to explain why the mujtahids have differed in their opinions.

This variance in fatwas is because of the difference in the ahadith we have on this issue. There is a hadith, for example, from Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq quoting the Prophet that "The anus of women is haram for my community." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 104) Now this hadith categorically forbids anal intercourse. But, according to 'Allamah al-Hilli and ash-Shahid ath-Thani, the chain of narrators of this hadith is not completely flawless. (See Hilli's Tazkiratu'l-Fuqaha, vol. 2, p. 576-7; Shahid's Masalik, vol. 2, p. 303) On the other hand for example, we have a hadith from 'Abdullah bin Abi Ya'fur whose chain of narrators is authentic in which Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq was questioned about a man who had had intercourse in the anus of his wife. The Imam said, "There is no problem in it if she agrees." (Wasa'il 'sh-Shi'ah, vol. 14, p. 103)

When faced which such conflicting ahadith, most mujtahids have tried to bring them together by taking the apparently more authentic hadith (which approves anal intercourse) as a qualifier for the ahadith which totally forbid such sex. And in conclusion, they say that the prohibition in such ahadith is not on the level of haram, instead it is on the level of makruh. (See ash-Shahid ath-Thani, Sharh Lum'ah, vol. 2, p. 68 and Masalik, vol. 1, p. 438-9)

This conclusion of theirs is supported by a third category of ahadith on this subject in which the Imams have clearly and strongly discouraged their followers from anal intercourse. An example can be found in the question asked by Safwan al-Jammal to Imam 'Ali ar-Riza (a.s.) in which the latter clearly expressed his personal dislike for such act. (Wasa'ilu 'sh-Shi'ah, vol. 14, p. 102-103)

Therefore the majority of the Shi'ah mujtahids have derived two conclusions: (l) that anal intercourse is not haram but strongly disliked (karahatan shadidah) provided the wife agrees to it. (2) and if she does not agree to it, then all mujtahids say that it is precautionarily wajib to refrain from it. (See the fatawa of all contemporary mujtahids in their annotations to al-'Urwatu'l-Wuthqa, p. 628)

With all due respect to the great mujtahids who hold the above opinion, I would like to present the preferred opinion. It is true that we have conflicting ahadith from our Imams on anal intercourse, but the ahadith which approve anal intercourse are not suitable for deriving an opinion. Why? Because, in the case of conflicting ahadith, the mujtahid has to contrast them with the Sunni view prevalent at the time when the ahadith were issued by the Imams. And, then, those which agree with the Sunni view are to be considered as statements issued under taqiyyah and, therefore, not suitable for use in ijtihad. (For this methodology, the specialist reader may refer to Shaykh Murtaza al-Ansari, Rasa'il, p. 464-468) Using this method of solving the conflicting ahadith gives strength to the prohibitive ahadith and brings us to the preferred view that anal intercourse is not allowed. (For further details on this view, the specialist reader may refer to the late Ayatullah Syed Rahat Husayn al-Golalpuri, al-Intisar fi hurmati'l-adbar, Lucknow, al-Wa'iz Safdar Press, 1354 AH. To know the views of some prominent Sunnis of the Early Islamic period who approved anal intercourse, the English readers can refer to at-Tabataba'i, al-Mizan vol. 3 (English translation) pp. 320-321) Probably, it was such a consideration which caused the late Ayatullah al-Khu'i to change his view on this issue. During the last decade of his life, Ayatullah al-Khu'i departed from the majority view and gave the ruling that it was precautionarily wajib to abstain from anal intercourse no matter whether the wife agrees to it or not. (See al-Khu'i, Minhaju 's-Salihiyn, vol. 1 (Beirut: 22nd edition) p. 64)

I would strongly advise against anal intercourse, and would like to end this section with the saying of Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq and Imam 'Ali ar-Riza about anal intercourse: "Woman is a means of your pleasure, therefore do not harm her." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 101-102)

(E) Decency & Privacy

There was a time when people need not be reminded of some of the basic moral and ethical values, but now we are living in an era where moral values are changing like worn-out car tires!

One such issue is decency of dress at home and privacy at the time of sexual intercourse or intimate contact between husband and wife. There are some people in the West (of course, a minority) who think that it is okay, nay healthy, to stay naked in presence of their children! On a collective basis, they also organize nude camps. Why? So that the children will not think negatively about their own sexuality. Such parents also feel that there is nothing wrong in sexual intercourse in the presence of their children. This behavior is an example of the extreme reaction to the rigid Christian morality. To protect their children from associating sex with evil, some of these parents go to the extent of completely opening up to their children!

Such behavior is not only condemned by those who still abide by religious moral systems, it is equally condemned by those who are familiar with child psychology. A sexual manual read by millions of Westerners says, "Never involve children in adult sexual activities: militant and exhibitionist liberals who try to acclimatize children to the naturalness of sex by letting them in any level of their own sex lives probably do at least as much harm as was ever done by the prohibitive sex-is-dirty generation."

We have quite a few ahadith in which the Prophet and the Imams have emphasized that when you engage in sexual intercourse, make sure that no child (or, for that matter, any other person) sees you or hears you. Abu Basir quotes Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq as follows, "Be careful not to have sex with your wife while a child can see you. The Prophet used to dislike this (attitude) very strongly." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 94-95) If a child sees and hears the parents engaged in sexual intercourse, he might go through a shocking psychological experience. It might also create a problem in his own adult life. The manual quoted earlier says, "Most young children are biologically programmed to interpret the sight or sound of adult coition as evidence of a violent assault (they are aware of it earlier than you would expect, so don't keep babies in the bedroom), and the awareness of mother-father sexual relations is on all counts far too explosive a matter to be monkeyed with in the interest of Reichian experiments."

Islam has laid down clear guide-lines about the privacy of adults. Referring to the children who have not yet reached the age of puberty (bulugh), the Qur'an says:

O you who believe! ... Those of you who have not yet reached puberty should ask you for permission (before entering your bedroom during) three times: before the dawn prayer, when you put off your garments at midday (for siesta), and after the night prayer these are three times of privacy for you. Besides (these three times), there is no blame on you or them if you go to one another (without announcing yourselves). Thus God makes clear to you the signs, and God is All-Knowing, Wise. (24:58)

Then referring to the children who have reached the age of puberty, the Qur'an says:

When your children reach puberty, they should ask your permission (at all times before entering your bedrooms) just as those who were before them had asked permission. Thus God makes clear to you the signs, and God is All-Knowing, Wise. (24:59)

These two verses give us the following rules about privacy within and without the family circles:

1. There are three times in a day night, early morning and afternoon which are considered as times of privacy.

2. The minor children should be taught that during times of privacy they are not allowed to enter the bedroom of their parents or adults without first asking their permission. Obviously, by minor we do not mean infants; we mean the children who can understand what is right and what is wrong. I would put that at age five and above. The parents will have to ingrain this teaching to their minor children gradually.

3. At other times, the children are free to come and go into the bedroom of their parents without asking for their permission. In retrospect, this means that the parents should be decently dressed at those other times.

4. As for the mature children and adults, the Qur'an is clear that they may enter the bedroom of their parents or other adults at all times only after asking their permission.

08. SEXUAL TECHNIQUES:Islamic Marriage (Nikaah) Handbook for Young Muslims, Muslim Wedding and Marriage Guide

There are no particular rules and laws either in foreplay or in intercourse. The only laws and rules are the ones reached by the lovers by mutual and often unspoken understanding. Whatever is pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is right and proper; and whatever is mutually displeasing is wrong. The only limitation to this general rule would be any Shariah rule, which goes against the wishes of the husband or the wife.

A. Foreplay is Highly Recommended:
Islam emphasizes on foreplay. Imam Ali (as) says, "When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled)." Sex without foreplay has been equated to cruelty. Holy Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said, "Three people are cruel: .a person who has sex with his wife before foreplay."

Another hadith equates sex without foreplay to animal behavior: "When anyone of you has sex with his wife, then he should not go to her like birds; instead he should be slow and delaying."

As for the role of a woman in sexual foreplay, the Imams have praised a wife who discards shyness when she is with her husband. Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (a.s.) says, "The best woman among you is the one who discards the armor of shyness when she undresses for her husband, and puts on the armor of shyness when she dresses up again." After all, modesty and chastity in public is the hallmark of a Muslim lady.

These sayings clearly show that the husband and the wife should feel completely free when they are engaged in mutual stimulation, which is known as foreplay. There is nothing wrong, according to Islam, for a woman to be active and responsive during sex. As for the Islamic Shariah, all the mujtahids are unanimous in saying that the act of sexual foreplay in itself is mustahab (recommended). Likewise, it is recommended not to rush into sexual intercourse. The operative word is mutual pleasure and satisfaction.

B. Techniques of Foreplay:
As far as the methods of mutual stimulation in foreplay are concerned, the Shariah allows the husband and the wife to see, kiss, touch, smell and stimulate any part of each other's body. Therefore, oral sex, as it is known, is allowed. Imam Musa al-Kazim (a.s.) was once asked, "Can a person kiss his wife's vagina?" The Imam said, "No problem."

The only restriction is that no foreign object should be used. The restriction on the use of foreign objects is based on the following hadith. Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he had an old neighbor who owned a young slave-girl. Because of his old age, he could not fully satisfy the young slave-girl during sexual intercourse. She would therefore ask him to place his fingers in her vagina, as she liked it. The old man complied with her wishes even though he did not like this idea. So he requested Ubaydullah to ask Imam Ali ar-Reza (a.s.) about it. When Ubaydullah asked the Imam about it, Imam Ali ar-Reza (a.s.) said, "There is no problem as long as he uses any part of his own body upon her, but he should not use anything other than his body on her."

Though masturbation (i.e., self-stimulation of one's own sexual organ till emission of semen or orgasm) is not allowed, in the case of married persons, there is no problem if the wife stimulates her husband's penis till the emission of semen or the husband stimulates his wife's vagina till orgasm. This is allowed because it does not come under "self-stimulation;" it is stimulation by a lawful partner.

C. Sexual Intercourse:
Is there any particular position for sexual intercourse, which is forbidden in Islam? No! As far as the basic coital positions are concerned, there are no restrictions. The term 'basic coital positions' denotes the positions known as the man above, face to face, woman above face to face; side position, face to face; rear-entry position in which the husband penetrates the vagina from the rear. Actually, the Shariah has left it on the husband and the wife to explore and experiment as they wish. However, it is makruh to adopt a standing position, or to face the Qiblah or keep it on the backside during the intercourse. It is advisable to refrain from the acrobatic positions given by some sexologists of the East and the West, which might even cause physical harm.

Remember, the basic rule is mutual pleasure and flexibility. If one partner does not like a particular position, then the other should yield to his or her feelings. It is highly emphasized that at the commencement of intercourse the partners should recite Bismillaahir Rah'maanir Rah'eem (In the name of Allah the Beneficent, the Merciful).

D. Anal Intercourse:
The opinions of our mujtahids vary on the permissibility of anal intercourse. The majority of the Shi'ah mujtahids have derived two conclusions: (1) that anal intercourse is not Haraam but strongly disliked (karahatan shadidah) provided the wife agrees to it. (2) and if she does not agree to it, then all mujtahids say that it is precautionarily wajib to refrain from it.

However, during the last decade of his life, Ayatullah al-Khu'i departed from the majority view and gave the ruling that it was precautionarily wajib to abstain from anal intercourse no matter whether the wife agrees to it or not.

Maulana Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi says, "I would strongly advise against anal intercourse," and quotes the saying of Imam Jafar as-Sadiq and Imam Ali ar-Reza (a.s.) about anal intercourse: "Woman is a means of your pleasure, therefore do not harm her."

E. Hygiene:
After the intercourse the partners may first wipe their genitals with clean pieces of cloth. It is recommended that the same cloth/towel must not be used by both of them.

07. DAYS AND TIMES FOR SEX :Islamic Marriage (Nikaah) Handbook for Young Muslims, Muslim Wedding and Marriage Guide

A. When is Sex Forbidden?
Islam has forbidden sexual intercourse during menstruation. Holy Qur'an says: They ask you about menstruation. Say: "Menstruation is a discomfort (for women). Do not establish sexual relations with them during the menses and do not approach them (sexually) until the blood stops. Then when they have cleansed themselves, you go into them as Allah has commanded you." (Surah Baqarah 2:222)

According to the Shariah, the duration of the monthly period is between three to ten days. If the bleeding was for less than three days, it is not menstruation; if it is for more than ten days, then it is menstruation for the regular number of days and istehadha for the rest of the bleeding during which sex is permitted.

The prohibition of sex during the periods is limited strictly to sexual intercourse; other intimate contact (with the exception of the vagina and anus) is allowed. However, it is better not to play with her body between the navel and the knees. If a person who is engaged in sexual intercourse with his wife discovers that her period has begun, then he should immediately withdraw from her.

It is clear from the verse mentioned above (until the blood stops) that once the blood has stopped, intercourse becomes lawful even if the woman has not performed the major ritual ablution (Ghusl). But mujtahids say that it is better to refrain from intercourse till she performs the Ghusl or, at least, washes her private parts.

Sexual intercourse is also not allowed during the post-natal bleeding called nifas (maximum 10 days), during daytime in the month of Ramadan, and when a person is in Ihram during the Hajj pilgrimage to Makkah. At all other times, sexual intercourse is allowed.

Times when Sexual Intercourse is Makruh:

i. During frightful natural occurrences, e.g., eclipse, hurricane, earthquake;
ii. From sunset till maghrib;
ii. From dawn till sunrise;
iii. The last three nights of lunar months;
iv. Eve of the 15th of every lunar month;
v. Eve of 10th Zil-hijjah;
vii. After becoming junub.

B. Recommended Days and Times for Sex.
We have certain ahadith, which say that it is better to have sexual intercourse at these times:

i. Sunday night;
ii. Monday night;
iii. Wednesday night;
iv. Thursday noon;
v. Thursday night;
vi. Friday evening;
vii. Whenever the wife wants to have sex.

C. When is it Obligatory to have Sex?
It is wajib on man to have sex with his wife at least once in every four months; this is considered as one of the conjugal rights of the wife. This obligation stays in force unless there is a valid excuse or the wife waives her right.

Sex Technique

Any manoevre or position that adds to the pleasure of the sexual encounter between husband and wife is permissible and commendable. One exception is anal intercourse, which is forbidden in Islam. A man may get to his wife from her behind, provided the male organ is introduced in the vagina and not in the anus. This was clearly indicated by the Quran and the Sunna- The Quran says: "Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when and how you will" (2:223) The similie on this verse makes intercourse similar to agriculture, entailing putting the seed into the soil in the hope of getting the fruit; and this does not apply to anal sex. Several prophetic traditions forbid the practice of anal sex: "Do not visit women into their back passages" (Ahmad, Termizi, Ibn Magah) When the jews of Madina argued with some muslims and said that vaginal coitus approached from behind would cause the baby to have squint in his eyes, the prophet denied this and said: "From behind or from the front as long as it is in the vagina." (Muslim and Abu Dawood) "Cursed he. ..who has sex with a woman through her back passage." (Ahmad) It is reported that the occasion when the verse of the Quran "Your wives are a tilth unto you, so approach your tilth how and when you will", was when Umar ibn al Khattab (prophet's companion and later second caliph) had (vaginal) sex with his wife approaching her from behind and was worried lest it be unlawful. He went to the prophet looking distressed, and asked why he was worried, he used the modest and shy expression: Apostle of God. I changed my saddle'last night' , He was relieved when the Quran and the prophet announced the permissibility of the practice. Another Quranic reference to this matter came with the injunction that intercourse is to be avoided while the woman is menstruating: "They ask you concerning menstruation. Say it is a hurt and a pollution. So keep away from women during their periods and do not approach them until they become clean. But when they have purified themselves you may approach them in any manner, time or place ORDAINED FOR YOU By GOD." (2:222) In Islamic law, anal intercourse even with the wife is illegitimate. If legally proven, it is punishable according to the discretion of the judge. It stands as legal justification for the wife to apply for divorce if the husband is unwilling to desist. Over the past two decades the subject of anal sex started to make its: : appearance in scientific medical meetings that I attended, and one couldn't miss the special furyor some medical people went into, in order to prove that it Was completely harmless. Clinical series and over-whelming statistics Were presented which contradicted basic knowlege, and on one occasion the researcher even proved that anal sex Was safer than vaginal sex. The discussions were all within the context of homosexuality , and the proponents were all the time the same who advocated free sex, free abortion and freedom from religious' 'relics and taboos'. Since then, I lost my trusting nature and my faith in the integrity of some researchers and at the beginning this Was an agonizing feeling. As time passed, one became even more disillusioned. Until 1970 homosexuality was considered to be a disease necessitating treatment. But when the American Psychiatric Association declared that it was not a disease, homosexuality became a wave, a cult and a growing power until the dream became shattered with the emergence of AIDS (aquired immune deficiency syndrome) that threatens to be the Scourge of Our century.

Islam's Dr. Ruth and her campaign for good sex

Can this marriage be saved? Yes, says a Dubai counsellor, if husband attends to his wife's needs

Jessica Hume Special to the Star

Published On Sun Aug 09 2009

Wedad Lootah is fighting for women's sexual rights from behind the full niqab.

A marriage counsellor in the family guidance department of Dubai Courts, Lootah sees couples who are considering divorce or want to revive their relationship. She is also the author of the shocking, for the United Arab Emirates, Top Secret: Sexual Guidance for Married Couples, a book published in January.

And much of the advice she dispenses involves teaching husbands that their wives deserve sexual pleasure too.

The idea of anyone, let alone a female, practising sex therapy may seem at odds with the ethos of the U.A.E. – a country in which hand-holding and other displays of public affection can result in prison terms, where premarital sex among Western expats is a deportable offence.

But Lootah is able to get away with talking about this taboo subject because she bases her advice firmly on the teachings of the Qur'an, which is decidedly more forthcoming about sex than the Bible.

And she insists her motivation has much less to do with sexual liberation than with helping married couples avoid divorce.

"My subject is not sex; people always misunderstand that," says the married, 45-year-old mother of three, a marital counsellor for nine years. "I'm trying to guide people about how to satisfy each other and save society from illegal relations – girlfriends, boyfriends.

"We're talking about Islam. We're not talking about sex."

Still, the reality is that she and her clients are talking about sex. During a recent, two-hour interview – in English and with an Arabic translator – in her tiny office, she said the most important piece of advice she can give is, "Don't forget that there are 22 positions to have sex in. Use them all."

Although the Qur'an states explicitly that both husbands and wives deserve sexual gratification in marriage, sex remains an intensely private subject.

Sex education in Emirates high schools consists of little more than a heads-up for girls about menstruation and a reminder that in Islam, sex may only take place in marriage.

And because many couples in the Emirates are loath to discuss sex with their partners, says Lootah, marriages suffer. Meanwhile, infidelity is forbidden in Islam, and divorce is frowned upon.

Sharia law urges couples considering divorce to make every effort to save their marriage. And Lootah, born and raised in Dubai and studied Islamic jurisprudence in college, sees herself as complying with that guideline by getting men and women to talk about their sex lives.

The truth is that if the Qur'an didn't factor so largely into her work, she probably would not have been personally appointed by Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum as the first and only woman family counsellor at the court and in Dubai, nor does it seem likely that Top Secret would have been published.

After all, her book deals with subjects ranging from female orgasm to homosexuality and anal sex.

Lootah condemns the latter two, as they are forbidden in the Qur'an. Indeed, she sees herself as neither provocative nor revolutionary, a self-image bolstered by her wearing of the full niqab, which exposes only her eyes and hands.

THE DIVORCE RATE in the U.A.E. is about 30 per cent. And the process leading up to traditional Muslim marriage makes it particularly vulnerable to breakdown.

Many unions are decided upon by the parents of the prospective bride and groom, who often don't even meet before the wedding.

Once the families agree on the union, it is confirmed legally in a written agreement.

"Then the marriage is legal, but it is without sex," she says. "That's not until the wedding.

"The Prophet Mohammed, peace be upon him, said before you marry, you need to see each other, you need to understand if you like each other.

"I advise people to visit each other before the wedding, spend time together, get to know each other."

Lootah says that it's mainly women who go to see her. "And they're here because the men don't always understand that they have responsibility in the marriage beyond working; they have a responsibility to make sure the wife gets pleasure.

"If he has two or more wives, it has to be equal among them all."

The problem, she continues, is that in a culture where a woman's modesty is among her most prized traits, more conservative women are reluctant to bring up a subject as racy as sex with their husbands, or even with friends.

The ebullient Lootah says her greatest asset at work is her ability to put those on the other side of her desk at ease. She approaches her subject with empathy, a sense of humour and an unfazed candour.

NOT SURPRISINGLY, Lootah's openness about a topic generally considered taboo within Islamic culture has stirred up controversy.

She first encountered threats and opposition in 2004, after an interview on the Al Arabiya TV network.

Death threats and accusations of blasphemy followed the release of her book. The anger came from men in the Gulf, who said her openness about sex was un-Islamic.

Her view is that they feel threatened that a woman in niqab would empower other women to demand better sex from their husbands.

The idea for her book arose after she'd met women whose stories about marital sex shocked her.

"One couple lived together for 35 years, they had children, and in discussions I found that the woman had had no sexual pleasure in all that time," she recalls. "Another woman told me that during the 20 years of her marriage, her husband only ever had anal sex with her except for the times they wanted to have children."

Another woman said her husband had asked for oral sex, and she wasn't sure if that was allowed by the Qur'an. (The Qur'an, explains Lootah, has no problem with it.)

Her book is the only one of its kind to have been published in the U.A.E..

The number of people she sees – and not all are Muslims or Emiratis – has increased over her time as a counsellor, she points out. Now she has five or six appointments a day.

"From 2001 to 2004 it was almost always on the phone; couples were ashamed to talk, or they would talk but they wouldn't reveal everything. Since 2004, when I went on Al Arabiya and started giving lectures, and then the book, now people know there is someone who will listen. Even the most religious couples tell me everything now."

THERE MAY BE increased openness to talking about sex in other Arab countries too. Heba Kotb, 49, is an Egyptian sex therapist whose decidedly frank sex show is broadcast weekly across the Arab world. Like Lootah, Kotb bases her advice on the Qur'an. And like Lootah, her work has stirred up some vociferous opposition.

One point of pride for Lootah is the fact that among the six family therapists working at the Dubai Court, she is the one whose appointment book fills up quickest. She has the highest success rate, she contends.

And some of her best moments are when the people she has counselled come back to thank her, crediting Lootah for saving a marriage.

Lootah herself has been married 21 years. Her bond with her husband is strong, she says, and he is "very supportive, very proud" of her.

Other than a lack of communication and variety, Lootah says a not making an effort to stay desirable can hurt a marriage.

"My advice for married women is to buy lots of dresses. Look beautiful. Be clean. Use the perfume.

"I give the same advice to men. Be like what you want your wife to be like. Brush your teeth."

– The National, Dubai

Love, Sex and the Position of Women in Bangladesh

Friday, 25 September 2009 12:09 William Gomes

As Bangladesh goes increasingly religious, sex-crime against women and children bursts. Why is it so, and what we need to do to create a world for women to live a dignified life...

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Sex and love are forces that, every day, lead to new problems and new possibilities around the world. In male-dominated societies, like Bangladesh, women can often be treated as sexual objects. Women experience sexual harassment, abduction, rape, and even murder. The natural desire for sex and love has brought women unknown misery. The fact is, when a woman gets raped, it is not the woman who has sex, but the man who was the active person having sex; yet, in societies like Bangladesh, all the shame goes to the woman. The woman is the one, who is oppressed by sexual violence, may experience depression afterward, and have to bear all the shame; but the man remains unaffected.

The Sikh holy book Guru Granth Sahib says, "Sexual desire and anger are diffused throughout the universe. Coming and going, people suffer in pain."

Religions strictly limit people’s freedom in sex and sexuality, especially in the Indian Subcontinent. The major world-religions have a highly conservative stance on sex and love. The Bible starts with a simplistic idea of humankind’s beginning: how Adam, the first man, felt lonely; how Eve, the first women, was created from Adam’s rib as his consort; and how Adam felt satisfied as he saw his mate. This is how Abrahamic religions make women property of men, materialize the woman for man’s pleasure: the woman must make the man happy, and act as a tool for procreation to populate the world. Similarly, most other religions have, more or less, a degrading view of woman.

In Bangladesh, sex-related crimes against women and children are increasing. Crimes result from mentality of the criminal. People normally argue that people, who commit such crimes, are smaller in number than those, who oppose it.

But, then, the question is: Why does this majority, who overwhelmingly outnumber the criminals, fail to bring an end to crimes against women and children?

Why is it that we come across unsavory news-headlines like---"A juvenile girl raped by an imam in rural Bangladesh?" or, "Bangladesh: Newly married minority woman raped and killed by Muslim thugs"---on a daily basis?

Some people argue that a criminal’s mentality can be improved through the practice of religion, but, historically, and even at our present time, religions have failed to make people less criminal, including their propensity toward sexual violence.

In Bangladesh, the conservative religion of Islam dominates lives of the majority. As the country becomes increasingly religious, it runs into increasingly chaos, with bursts in sexual crimes. And the reason could lie in the fact that Islam views women as men’s property and object for their sexual pleasure. A hadith says (Tialissi):

The right of the husband is that when he calls his wife to have sex, she should not deny him herself.

The root of the problem of bursts in sexual crime in Bangladesh lies in the society’s mentality. It is not only the mentality of men that must change, but also the society’s understanding of woman that needs to become more positive, especially in regard to their role in sex and love. Many special laws have been introduced and many criminals were sentenced to death, but, in the end, there has been a failure in deterring sexual crimes against women.

We need to dig out the rotten root of religions that inspire men to be inhumane towards women. We need a global campaign to create a free and fearless world for women, where women will be equal and dignified partner of men. Only then will come the day, when women we will be able live in peace, love and dignity alongside men, not as being degraded and violated by their opposite number.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Religion is to do right. It is to love, it is to serve, it is to think, and it is to be humble."

We need foster a religion that inspires us to think of men and women, first and foremost, as human equal and dignified beings, before our sexual differentiation.

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William Gomes is a human rights worker, film director and freelance journalist in Bangladesh. He can be reached by email at cda.exe@gmail.com This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .